Bringing me back to me!

Archive for March, 2011


I often find that, including myself of course, we as a society have tormented the true value of life. (with all respect to individuality, there are certain common things that gives joy, love & peace to life) It is so distorted now that we don’t even know what to teach our kids anymore. As we ourselves are often confused by influences from the outside and some epigenetic programming from the inside. How can we teach them so that they would have a more balanced life than we had?

Most people we see will value self importance and self satisfaction over happiness or health. I find that it is most common that I have encountered over the years, including working with various forms of addictions. We falsely perceived that being right, being respected or being the source of ultimate truth is just much more important that being happy and at peace with ourselves.

Yet some of us thought that life is all about “living it big”. The glamour and the blink of a Hollywood lifestyle. (maybe not to that extend, but you get what I mean) Without these we are NOBODY, we won’t be happy, and we are less than who we are! It sounds scary but that is what is going on in people’s psyche. Looking for a sense of security at a superficial level. Look deeper you might find more treasures tucked under the abyss of your inner vastness.

We some how could not remember what makes us happy as child. Sometimes it is the simplest things like your mother’s smile or the sound of tearing a piece of paper, if you are a YouTube follower. So what is missing in this adult life? What is there but yet not there? What have we gained and what have we lost? Maybe these are the questions that we all should have asked ourselves.

And I am perfectly aware of those who “MANIFEST”; people, things, partner, money, career, status, wealth….. the list is endless. BUT, do you know that the minute you engage in the thought of manifesting, you immediately fall into the consciousness of lack. I don’t have therefore I want!  The Law of Attraction is saying, lack attracts lack, then tell me how can you ever get what you wanted?

Maybe life is not about wanting something but making good use of what you already have? All we ever needed and wanted is there but we are not aware of it. Maybe we have been living a life of others or even living the dreams of others. Yet we never bring our awareness to what we truly want in life, or worse who we truly are…..!

To end this I offer you the words of wisdom from Louise Hay; I love and approve of myself. I trust the process of life to be there for me. I am safe. All is well.


Security and a sense of belonging…..

Human being has come to an age of complacency, with the help of technology we have created our own comfort zone. At times we may not even comfortable when we have visitor in the house or sharing a room with somebody. We felt so uneasy and the personal space seemed to be violated by the presence of another individual. We call this safe space our home and we felt so safe and secure within this space that we have created. That is why home burglary causes more trauma to the victim than robbery on the street. We belong in this place and in turn this place belongs to ME! Some would say “oh, that’s called attachment”. Yes it is a form of attachment but what causes the attachment? Most of us are not willing to be aware of the root cause yet conveniently label a certain behavior. You will only be called judgmental if you label others but if you battered yourself with the same kind of attitude you will never get anywhere in life.

So what is causing us to have this neediness, as all living being on this earth (except plant, not talking about the devas here) there is this part of us that “requires” safety and security. Like it or not this is one of the basic need of survival. The essential part of being in this world therefore it is preprogrammed as an autonomic part of our functionality. As a human being with highly intellectualised concepts this form of security and safety takes a different turn with the sense of belonging. Although animal are territorial, at times will protect their group and the area that they live in but they are willing to move and migrate to a safer place where it would ensure the survival of the tribe. This kind of nomadic lifestyle has been adopted by the early settlers and tribal community such the Native American, the Mongolian and various nomadic communities in Africa and Europe.

Nowadays we seems to be holding tighter and tighter to who we are and where we life. Our job, our career, our loved ones, our friends, our pets and most importantly the familiarity of the place, people or culture that we are in for however long period of time. The sense of comfortability and convenience had taken our civilisation to a whole new level of social dynamic. We have developed into a society that only wanted the good (which is fair) yet despise the bad. That is where the idea of “manifestation” were born and had taken a detour route. We have forgotten that there are values in everything; challenges that we are facing, traumatic experience of the past or simply the obstacle that we foresee in the future.

Being able to maintain clarity of past, present and future; and not attach to anyone of them, simply acknowledging what “it is” may be the key to you ultimate wellbeing. As this is the root to true sense of security and safety, an unconditional one. You will know what you have experienced, what you must do now and what is to be expected of the future. Uncertainty, unsettling and distress will dissolves into nothingness.

May peace be with all beings, and may the peace within all beings be rippled out to the entire existence!

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